TY - BOOK AU - McKay,Matthew AU - Quick,Barbara TI - The commitment dialogues: how to talk your way through the tough times and build a stronger relationship SN - 0071441557 PY - 2005/// CY - New York PB - McGraw-Hill KW - Commitment (Psychology) KW - Interpersonal relations KW - Man-woman relationships N1 - The core fears buried inside relationships -- The fear of engulfment, will I still exist if I merge with you? -- The fear of abandonment, is there a magic glue to make you stay? -- The shame factor, you won't love me anymore if you see the real me -- The emptiness trap, if I keep moving, I won't have to look inside -- The masking issues -- Introduction to part II -- Time spending it together, spending it apart -- Money, yours, mine and ours -- Children, am I ready for this? -- Sex, what happened to it? -- Exclusivity, who do we let in, who do we keep out? -- Trust and goodwill, is long-term commitment possible if these are lost to us? -- Making a decision : letting go versus going for it ER -